Treating one's anxiety effectively can be a game-changer, as anxiety is one of the most common symptoms reported by people coming to counseling. Let’s look at specifics. First of all, what are you anxious about? Are you anxious about something in particular, or do you find that you are generally anxious quite often? In other words, is an anxious state a part of your normal daily life? These are some of the fundamental things to consider in the beginning of the counseling process.
Another important consideration is that, in my experience, it's important to understand that anxiety and depression build on each other, and that it's less important to try to discern how much of each one actually has, and more important to work on effectively coping with both.
If you've identified a specific stressor or stressors, let’s take a closer look at how counseling for anxiety can work for you.
Ask yourself the following questions:
In any case, if you have identified a specific stressor(s), you are in a much better position to address your anxiety. If you cannot pin your anxiety on anything specific, don't despair. Keep reading, the next section on this page is very relevant to you.
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, or CBT as it’s commonly referred to, is a long-standing evidence-based practice for anxiety treatment, as well as for depression. Since these two conditions often go hand in hand, CBT is a very effective model when working with anxiety and stress. Please take a look at this list of thought distortions.
As you examined the list, you may have realized that you think all of these distortions from time to time. That is normal. The real problem comes when we do any of these habitually. For example, if we commonly engage in #2 Polarized Thinking, or #5 Catastrophizing, it is a near certainty that anxiety will be a problem in our lives. I see this over and over with clients.
THE GOOD NEWS: You can change your thinking habits. It’s not as hard as it may sound.
I would suggest this link. This page contains an excellent, straight-forward technique for systematically identifying and then changing our thought distortions. This is at the heart of anxiety treatment! In addition, it’s very important to note that changing your thought habits will help you cope with both situation-specific anxiety and more generalized anxiety and stress.
The key is persistence--if you journal your thoughts in the manner that Burns describes in the Triple Column Technique, and stick with it, you can change the way you think and respond to events.
To put it simply, look at it this way:
Possibility #1: He ignored me. Wow, what a jerk!
Possibility #2: He must not have noticed me. After all, we were a pretty good distance from one another.
And….of course there are many other things you could think about this event.
An important note: If you are a survivor of physical, sexual, or emotional trauma, check out my webpage on trauma here. It includes ideas and resources relating to living with and overcoming trauma.
In addition, look for more information on my website with tools for grounding oneself (relaxation, mindfulness, and reducing one's anxiety in the moment when triggered) in the very near future.
A panic attack is a particularly intense surge of anxiety that may last for several minutes or cycle on and off for hours. Those who have suffered panic attacks often feel as though they are having a heart attack. In any case, panic attacks are incredibly intense and thus very scary! (A specific page on this topic is coming soon) If you think you may suffer from these, I strongly recommend seeking professional help, and reading this link about panic disorder.
The reason I ask you this is because many of us automatically consider our anxiety to be BAD. While it is certainly unpleasant, it's not necessarily a bad thing.
What do I mean? Put simply, our anxiety is an emotion, with an energy of its own. Consider that the anxiety and stress you feel may be giving you a message. If so, it's important that you listen to it! For example, anxiety may be a message to slow down, to learn how to relax, and/or to take better care of yourself.
IF you can see your anxiety as neither inherently good or bad, it can help you be in touch with its purpose and function. Ironically, seeing it in this manner can help you accept its presence and reduce your tendency to have anxiety about the anxiety itself. Fighting and resisting the anxiety will generally make it worse. This 'secondary anxiety' (fear of the fear) can be a very disabling thing, and is one of the first things I address with clients who identify anxiety as a major issue.
These methods for treating anxiety and stress are evidence-based. However, I must tell you, while some people can do this on their own, many if not most people find that consultation with a mental health professional greatly improves their ability to integrate and sustain their improvements. This is particularly true if your anxiety is generalized and tends to be prevalent in much or most of your daily life.
If you think that your anxiety is linked to or caused by a traumatic experience, please click here.
As always, it is wise to consult with your physician to rule out any medical reasons for your anxiety. Heart disease, respiratory problems (such as asthma), diabetes and other conditions can cause or worsen anxiety and stress.